The JVG Wedding Method - Short Version

Essential reading if you're thinking of getting married by Jon von Goes.This is the short version for those who are in a hurry.

Best to read the long version, but if you really couldn’t be bothered, this will get you across the line.

THE ENTRY, MUSIC

It doesn’t have to be the bridesmaids, then the bride with her old man opening the show anymore. You can both walk in together if you want. You can walk in with who ever you like.

Choose a song or piece of music that you both really like for this bit. Don’t worry about whether it’s weddingish enough, doesn’t matter.

Live music is really good here but not essential.

MY INTRO

I talk about you, the couple. I don’t preach about the institution of marriage. I talk about your happiness, your history, your future. That’s what the celebration is all about.
 
THE INTERLUDE

This usually takes the form of a reading or a song by a family member or friend. You don’t have to do this.
 
THE MONITUM FROM THE MARRIAGE ACT OF 1961

The government requires me to recite some stuff about marriage and the law.

HONOURING YOUR PARENTS

I like to congratulate your parents or whoever raised you. It works a treat. This takes the place of having a “giving away” of the bride. Of course, you don’t have to do this either.

THE ASKING

The part where I ask you a question and you in turn reply with an “I will” or an “I do”. There are examples of the sorts of questions I can ask you in the long version of my wedding method. Or you can write your own question for me to ask.

This is probably the question I am asked to ask the most –

XXXX, will you take XXXX to be your wife

Will you love her, comfort her
Honour and keep her, in sickness and in health
And, forsaking all others, keep only unto her
So long as you both shall live?

THE VOWS

You have to do this by law. It’s the part where you promise stuff to each other. Best to repeat after me. You may wish to write your own. Or you may want to look at my examples on the long version of my wedding method.

These would have to be the most commonly recited vows -

I, XXXX, call on the people here
To witness that I take you,
XXXX, to be my wife
To have and to hold

From this day forward
For better for worse
For richer for poorer
In sickness and in health
For the rest of my life.

THE RING CEREMONY

Best to have someone bring your rings to you. You can say stuff to each other when you’re whacking the rings on each other’s fingers. You certainly don’t have to say anything. I’ve got examples of stuff you could say to each other on the long version of my wedding method.

THE DECLARATION

I pronounce you husband and wife. You kiss. Everyone congratulates you. The party starts. A bit later when everything settles down a bit, we sign the papers.

Cheers


 

 

 

 

© 2010 G. Lee/Jon von Goes